The new Survivor Manual is here http://www.survivormanual.com/. We have kept this blogspot up with all the old posts for those who still have this linked. But come over to http://www.survivormanual.com/ please, it's amazing!
Monday, December 14, 2009
Saturday, October 3, 2009
We finally have our new http://www.survivormanual.com/ up! We are moving all posts, articles and contributors over to that site. Come join us!
Survivor Manual is an ongoing online magazine inspiring and empowering all survivors of abuse to heal and lead joyful lives! It is growing daily and will continue. Thank you for living joyfully, healing and sharing that joy with others.
Posted by Angela Shelton at 3:01 PM
Monday, September 21, 2009
Rhode Island taxpayers have contributed an enormous sum to wage a war that most of us know nothing about. The systems our state established to protect children have instead subjected many to danger and trauma that will profoundly shape the rest of their lives. Who will help to build public awareness and political consensus to protect children from those who prey on them or who profit from their abuse? How should government respond in ways that are transparent and accountable?
This is about survival and it is not about revenge. Telling my story allows me to vent and it is very therapeutic. I needed to step up to the plate and tell my story so I can protect others from the same experience. I don’t want sympathy; however, I just want to tell my story to a large audience and maybe (just maybe), I can protect one child from the sexual abuse that I suffered.
Friday, September 18, 2009
Anyone who works with traumatized people can be caught in the grip of anxiety, irritability, or overwhelming sadness. By shutting out those feelings, you may sink into emotional numbness. You wish for wise words and a fresh perspective. You long for an understanding heart. You can find all that and more in Laura van Dernoot Lipsky’s terrific book. What could be more useful to a beleaguered trauma worker than this kit bag of straight talk, wisdom, practical ideas and delightful doses of humor? Trauma Stewardship can be read straight through or picked up as needed for 15 minutes a day. Either way, it will get you through the hard times. It will help you feel better and work smarter. No trauma worker should be without it.
counselor, educator, and author of Getting Free: You Can
End Abuse and Take Back Your Life.
Seattle, Washington, USA
Sunday, September 13, 2009
Live Warrior Workshop on Sunday, Sept 13th
I will be in New Jersey this Sunday the 13th from
5:30-7:30 Eastern time, 4:30-6:30 Central Time, 3:30-5:30 Mountain time,
2:30-4:30 Pacific Time and 1:30-3:30 Alaska time.
at the HEAR New Brunswick Radio Station to teach a Warrior Workshop with
the new Warrior Workbook. The event will be broadcast live online
via Ustream - http://www.ustream.tv/channel/angela-shelton-show
You can watch and participate online via my Ustream Show.
Once I record the live show you will be able to share it with your friends.
Order tickets to come in person via Eventbrite:
You will need to download the Warrior Workbook to attend the
workshop in person or watch it online. Download it via the Yahoo
Store for 4.99. After the event on Sunday, the price goes up to 9.99 so
order it asap!
The new Warrior Workbook just came out and it is already being
used as teaching tools with therapists, support groups and
community education programs.
Check out the FACEBOOK Event too and please share it with your
friends. Those of you who are teachers, therapists, support group leaders
and or professors please send me testimonials about how you use
the workbook. If you are a survivor or a loved one please let me
know how the workbook has helped you.
I will also be starting conversations on http://seesmic.tv/angelashelton
Friday, September 11, 2009
My Body Belongs to Me is the critically acclaimed book by New York City child abuse and sex crimes prosecutor Jill Starishevsky.
Using her decade of experience, Ms. Starishevsky has crafted a book that speaks to children - it makes them aware that when it comes to their bodies, there are boundaries. It assures them that it’s OK to tell a parent or teacher if someone touches their “private parts.”
Geared toward children ages 3-10, it tells the story of a child who is touched by an uncle's friend and tells a parent. Children will respond to the rhyming text and bright illustrations. Parents and educators will find it a vital tool to initiate a lifesaving dialogue.
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Better to learn to meditate and quite the mind than say anything negative to yourself ever again! Having good thoughts in your head about yourself and others is free and so is this site.
Posted by Angela Shelton at 5:58 AM
Thursday, August 6, 2009
You can now watch the new version of Searching for Angela Shelton and embed it in your own website or blog!
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Left alone, wet diaper staining the floorboards
I cried and cried and cried
until I stopped.
Without love, without hugs, so cold
I turned inward to seek something else:
to make myself special.
Pain shattered my baby mind
into a thousand bits
'We'll make you special,' said the bits.
They took me to the underworld
fed me pomegranate seeds and mead
and danced around me in the dark.
'We're here to keep bad people bad,' said the bits
and they put me on a pedestal
and crowned me Queen of Hell.
I was their flashlight in the gloom
with batteries that never died,
though I wanted to.
I stood on my pedestal
shackled by the throat
my crown bejeweled, so special.
Singing my soft song: 'I bravely go
where only darkness grows,'
song of the bird in the gilded cage.
The bits became magnets
to draw in fear and rape
they split and grew many, grew into an army.
My bird soul battered
against its cage of gold,
its special cage. So special.
'Be free or die,' sang the bird soul
'Die,' said the bits
'Be Free,' said I.
Be Free. And with those words
the child's spell was broken,
the Queen of Hell threw off her shackle.
Her image fell to pieces, jeweled crown shattered
Her light went into my heart
the army of bits stood down.
The little bird flew.
The little bird sang.
Just an ordinary bird.
A bird like all others.